Outside this sacred sexuality realm, the stereotypes of sexually active women with multiple partners still exist. What is a ho’? The definition should be simple, but with the evolution of women embracing their sexuality and shamelessly expressing it, the word has become quite complex.
Recently, the good folks over at Merriam Webster added the word ho’ to the dictionary. It’s claimed to be a synonym to the word “whore,” which gives the following definition.
1 : a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; also : a promiscuous or immoral woman 2 : a male who engages in sexual acts for money 3 : a venal or unscrupulous person
Interesting…
I know many women who could fit that definition or could at one point in their lives. Yet, I would never describe them as a whore or a ho’ for simply loving themselves and placing their needs before another person’s standards. Every woman has sexual needs. Some can be fulfilled through monogamous sex; others need more than one partner. Does that make the latter promiscuous? A whore? A ho’? I pray that I’m preaching to the choir, but when will people just accept that there is no blueprint for how one should conduct themselves sexually. Just as humans have the ability to engage in sexual intercourse (or other sexual acts *smirk*), they should have the liberty to create their own standards on what is acceptable. Once you create your personal boundaries, keep them to yourself. Let other people live as they choose.
I was watching Amanda Diva’s web show, The Spark, on AOL Black Voices. She decided to call in relationship experts Anslem Samuel (NWSO.com) and Angela Yee (Sirius/XM Shade 45) to discuss this issue. It was an interesting discussion and I definitely appreciated Angela’s honesty. I find that men (no offense to Anslem) tend to create double standards for their actions. To put it bluntly, if you’re willing to “beat” after the first date or first week, don’t be mad or judge the woman who participates. I’ll let y’all watch the video.
When you’re done, tell me how you define the word ho’? Should we be getting rid of this word all together?
Enjoy!
